Jyoti and Damien, I know you are hurting
Sadly, there is no short cut to grieving process*
One has to go through the multiple stages
One must not skip a step, or one may regress
(*steps are listed at the end)

I won’t say I know your pain and hurt
I too am hurting, but I’m not in your shoes
For you it is personal, deep, and innate
This level of hurt, only time can diffuse

Take comfort in knowing you are not alone
All your loved ones are grieving with you
Do not clam down, reach out to others
By sharing grief together, comfort will ensue

We don’t know why such things happen
But we do know painful times eventually pass
Often it is difficult to see beyond the present
Have faith, you will get out of the morass

I don’t want to wish this experience on any one
Many among our friends/family faced similar tragedy
They came out at the other end stronger than ever
Years later, their lives are examples of fine tapestry

Life doesn’t always move in a straight line
Life’s ups and downs make you more resilient
If you stumble, get up and resume your journey
Pain and hurt along the way are transient

In nature, flowers and thorns coexist; likewise
life’s pain and joy are two facets of the same coin
Adversity and happiness are deeply intertwined
Don’t suffer by yourself, allow loved ones to join

This phase will surely pass, it always does
Father time will heal these wounds, ultimately
Until then, enjoy what nature has to offer
In all its complexity, subtlety, and tranquility.

Faith, hope and love.🙏 🌷🦋❤

Steps in grieving process:
5 steps model -Denial; Anger; Bargaining; Depression; Acceptance.
7 steps model – Shock and denial; Pain and guilt; Anger and bargaining; Depression; The upward turn; Reconstruction and working through; Acceptance and hope.